4 weeks

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These first 4 weeks have flown by but somehow I can’t imagine a time without him. I won’t pretend to know what I’m doing yet or try to sound like I know what I’m talking about – but I do think we’re finding our way slowly but surely. Having a baby is definitely humbling. We face new questions every day and what the ‘manuals’ can’t tell us – the visiting public health nurse is only too happy to help us with. She arrives on a bicycle and totes a hefty knowledge.

We’ve had quite a lot of visits from friends and family now that I count them up – and here I’d thought we’d be more cut off. There are a lot of things that aren’t like I’d thought they’d be. I also thought I’d crave a babysitter. Now I can’t imagine letting anyone else take care of Thor. No one else knows him like we do and well.. I don’t want to miss out on anything.

In Denmark the public health department arranges a mother’s group for you with five other women living close by who’ve had a baby around the same time you have so that you can meet up once a week to drink coffee, compare notes and offer/receive a bit of support with the million questions, feelings and challenges that come with all this change. It’s ideal. So far our group’s met once and agreed to add fitness activity to our meet-ups: at the gym or for some kind of swimming. Even more ideal.

The pace overall is slowed way down (which is so not me), my to-do list is horribly neglected and my hair probably needs a wash. And I’m smiling.

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Thor

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We’re home now, the three of us. Safe, healthy and so beyond happy. We’re all snuggled in for the next weeks: dark stormy weather outside and candle-light-cozy indoors. Add to that the dreamy bliss of a new baby and we might as well admit that we’re happily tucked in for the season.

We can’t get over how lucky we’ve been – what with everything leading up to Thor’s birth – we’ve been blessed with this little person: so lovely and healthy and absolutely gorgeous (as his parents we are allowed to think he is the most beautiful thing ever). We’ll no doubt have stared ourselves blind by month’s end. The first week has flown by incredibly quickly, despite savouring every single second of our days so far as parents. We just can’t get enough of him. Also thinking that a Star Trek transporter would be just the thing right now to reduce the distance between Copenhagen and Vancouver so that we could introduce him properly to grandparents and aunts back home. In the meantime – thank goodness for Skype.

Had a quick visit from Jen (a dear close friend from our university years together at SFU) a couple of days after we checked out of the hospital – great timing with her conference in Malmö. The woman is everything I love about Canada: open, smart, grounded and true. And a little bit cooky in the very best way. So fantastic to see you Jen. We’ll definitely be visiting you in Newfoundland – our hiking boots on and little Thor strapped to our backs ready to go.

And thank you to everyone who’ve wished us good luck in the days leading up to Thor’s birth, and to those who’ve wished us well afterwards. Your positive thoughts have meant a lot.

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Copenhagen Christmas

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Christmas / Jul 2011Wishing all of you a Happy Christmas and some days off that end with a big breath out, shoulders relaxed and a smile on your face.

It was just the two of us this year but somehow we managed to pull it off: the entire dinner (with only two near disasters) the dessert, the almond prize (50/50 odds this year were in Jan’s favour), the twinkly lights and heaps of Christmas cozy. Yay for Skype and a good long chat with family back home – really missed them this year. Just a few short days now to recollect and get ready to welcome the great big gift to come. Keep everything crossed..

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Friday Finds

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Still loving this screen saver. Get it (free) from 9031.  Photo credit: Naver blog

Recent website/blog favourites:
Fuck You Very Much: www.fuckyouverymuch.dk
Nowness – Daily exclusives for you to love: www.nowness.com (absolutely magic short films)
Dornob – Design Ideas Daily: www.dornob.com
Danish Design Blog: blog.danishdesignstore.com

Books waiting patiently on my Amazon wish list: you’ll be home soon my precious(es)
PlentyYotam Ottolenghi
(because everyone can use more vegetarian cook books and this one comes highly recommended)
River Cottage Veg Every DayHugh Fearnley-Whittingstall
God is Not Great: How Religion Poisons Everything - Christopher Hitchens

For thought:
“For every minute you are angry, you lose 60 seconds of happiness.” - Ralph Waldo Emmerson
“A mind is like a parachute. It does not work if it does not open.” - Frank Zappa

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Health(ier) Cosmetics + Alternatives

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Back in May 2011, after years of seeking out organic grown foods, followed by more recent months of wondering exactly what was in the cosmetics I was consuming via my skin – I read a rather timely (and eye-opening) Canadian study about the level of toxins in our daily cosmetics. This lead to a bit of research and list making in terms of chemicals to avoid (thank you David Suzuki) and a massive clean out of cosmetics I had previously favoured in the naive belief that “natural” meant natural and “hypo-allergetic” mean toxin free. I was horrified to find many of them full of (dangerous but legal levels of) chemicals proven to interfere with hormone function and/or contribute to incidents of breast cancer, brain disorders and Alzheimer’s, among other things. It was scary and infuriating.

Compiled below are some of my favourite alternatives – each of which avoid most or all 12 of the “dirty dozen” chemicals commonly found in cosmetics today.

Anyone with a heads up about other options and/or your own safe(r) favourites – I’d love to hear about them in the comments.

  1. John Masters Organics  – Unscented Shampoo / Citrus & Neroli Detangler (the most amazing hair products ever and admittedly a splurge when I buy them): Made with 17 certified-organic ingredients.
2. SAVE Nourishing Shampoo. 99% of the total ingredients are from natural origin. 14 % of the total ingredients are from organic farming.
3. Dr. Bronner’s Magic Pure Castile Classic Soaps (a long time favourite that I stock up on whenever I’m back in Canada): completely biodegradable and vegetable based. Made with Certified Fair Trade and Organic Oils. The text plastered all over the bottle makes for some rather interesting reading while you’re in the bath as well.
4. Urtekram Toothpaste (I’m not crazy about the chalkiness but being flouride free – I’ll choose this over Colgate any day). Does not contain SLS/SLES or foam ingredients that can be harmful according to ‘the list’.
5. Dr. Scheller 24hr Moisturizing Body Milk (addicted to this cream): Dr. Scheller products bear the NaTrue seal for natural cosmetics: fulfilling the highest ethical and ecological requirements.
6. Estelle & Thild Ecorganic Face Cream (also available in fragrance free): Swedish Organic Skin Care. Free from Parabens, mineral oils, sodium laurel/laureth sulphate (SLS), perfume, propylene glycol, silicone, urea, diethanolamine (DEA), triethanolamine (TEA), synthetic emulsifiers (e.g. polyethylene glycol or PEG), dyes.
7. Dr. Scheller Pomegranite Face Toner
8. Urtekram No Perfume Liquid Hand Soap
: 100% of the the ingredients are of natural origin. 10% of the ingredients are derived from Organic Agriculture.
9. Weleda Deodorant (this one holds up to a good workout): super fresh smell of organic sage and tea tree leaf oil. With no risky antiperspirants such as aluminum salts, your body’s natural detoxification process is supported while bacteria that cause unpleasant odors are neutralized. The citrus version is great too.
10. LUSH Natural Aluminum Free Deodorants (I love love love Aromaco and stock up whenever I’m in a country with a local LUSH shop): Microfine sodium bicarbonate, magnesium carbonate and lovely fragrances combat unfriendly smells, without using unhealthy aluminums.
11. Maison Belle cleaning products (do not fall under the category of cosmetics but their frequent use at home warrant mention here): Maison Belle’s effective and non-toxic household cleaners can be used on stoves, sinks, tiles, floors, fridges and cabinets. Scented with essential oils. Their Orange and Rosemary Kitchen cleaner is fantastic and (almost) makes me want to clean every day.

 12. Mama Mio Tummy Rub Stretch Mark Oil (I LOVE this oil with its high levels of Omega 3, 6 and 9 – and at 9 months pregnant, can happily attest to it’s effectiveness in combatting stretch marks in any way shape or form): Every Mama Mio product is paraben free, petroleum free, phthalates free, sodium laureth and sodium lauryl sulphate free, colourant free, synthetic fragrance free and xenoestrogen free. If it is nasty, it is a no-no. Even their fragrances are natural. They also have an impressive variety of face creams, moisturizers and serums that are worth checking out.
13. Burt’s Bees Baby Bee Nourishing Oil: uses sweet almond oil instead of mineral oil (which is a petro chemical with potential human health risks and unfortunately often used in baby products). 100% natural preservatives instead of parabens.
14. Burt’s Bees Baby Bee Shampoo & Wash: all-in-one, tear-free wash combines a natural plant-based cleansing complex with sweet orange and lemon oils instead of chemicals.
15. Burt’s Bees Tinted Lip Balm (another one I’ve been addicted to for years):  100% natural and a great source of (super) moisturizing colour in the face of dry nordic winter weather. I couldn’t do without it and probably have about 5 floating around.
16. Nilens Jord Mascara: paraben and perfume free, this mascara was a great find after trying (and hating) Dr. Hauschka’s mascara – which left me looking like a raccoon after a short bike ride in foggy weather or the slightest misty-eye moment.
17. Nilens Jord Eye Shadow: also paraben and perfume free, made with 100% natural minerals. Again – beat out Dr. Hauschka’s.
18. Bare Minerals Blush (one container lasts ages): Free from parabens, sulfates, synthetic fragrances, sythetic dyes, petro-chemicals or phalates.

 

{Just came across a new danish make-up line called Organiqs. Haven’t tried it yet, but their principles sound sensible so I’ll have a closer look and might give it a go when it’s time to restock}

Articles, Blogs and Other Resources:

Campaign for Safe Cosmetics [Website] – or follow on Facebook
David Suzuki’s Queen of Green [Website] – or follow her on Facebook
The Good Guide [Website]
Safe Cosmetic Brands Uncovered [Article]
Bloomberg: The Ten Most Toxic Cosmetics [Article]
Hair dyes: how to reduce your toxic exposure [Article]

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Magstræde + Snaregade

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Frederiksberg
Magstræde/Snaregade CPH
Snaregade CPH
I love this walk through Magstræde and Snaregade with their curving cobblestone streets and colourful old buildings. It’s becoming one of my favourite routes – today on our way to the National Museum for a little anniversary lunch and a bit of poking around. Very low key and a sweet afternoon together. Just what we needed.

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Friday Finds

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In the hood. Coveting the city neighbourhood posters from Ork, the Vancouver version especially: Kitsilano, Mount Pleasant, Yaletown, Stanley Park – but wait – where’s South Granville? Photo credit Ork Posters

Fresh ideas: A Garden in My Apartment (TED) Check out Britta Riley’s R & D-I-Y project: window farms & open source innovation.

For thought:
“You can have everything in life you want if you will just help enough other people get what they want.”
- Zig Ziglar
“You can’t do things that matter if you keep doing things that don’t.”
- Courtney Carver

Regrets of the dying: When questioned about any regrets they had or anything they would do differently, common themes surfaced again and again. Read Bonnie Ware’s article outlining the top 5

The making of Hero: an image composed entirely out of 3.2 million ink dots – Hero on Vimeo (video)

Free eBook from UpCycled Love - On Change: Stories from 25 inspiring bloggers 

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Farewell Bedstemor

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Lost a woman of big importance in my life today. Missing words.

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12 Random Pregnancy Thoughts

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1. I am totally impressed with the stretching ability of my front. But wtf is happening to my belly button?

2. There are pregnant ladies everywhere. Why haven’t I noticed this before? Was there something in the water last Spring?

3. Miscellaneous airlines: stop taunting me with your flight deals and more-interesting-that-ever-just-because-I-can’t-go-there-right-now destiniations.

4. Dear publishers, editors, baby-stuff sales peopleI am not 5. Please do not refer to me as “mommy” or to us as “mommies and daddies.” Save the baby talk for your kids (or do them a huge favour and don’t).

5. Close your ears. It’s shocking how quick many people are to remind you of how little sleep you’ll get, the freedom you’re giving up and all the bad behavior, vomit and smells you have to look forward to. Bless the friends and family who’ve reacted with immediate happiness and sincerely positive words about how absolutely wonderful it is to become a parent. Thank you. I was starting to wonder why some of these well intentioned folks had willingly subjected themselves to the previous.

6. Let’s agree on a direction, baby. I walk forwards and you’re in there suddenly leaning us left. Then right. Then left again. Very funny.. but this walking in circles business is getting a little counter-productive. Something tells me though, that we’re going to have a lot of fun us three.

7. I should have discovered prenatal massage much sooner. I should also have taken that massage table (with a pop-out hole in the middle) home with me. I could happily live from that heavenly contraption all day and night (and eat from a long straw). Never mind about permanent post-massage-donut-face.

8. I will never again complain about having mood swings or cramps (just) one day per month. I think I can safely speak for Jan on that one too.

9. We’re coming home from the hospital with a little person. And no babysitter. Just us. Dun dun dunnn…
A recent great piece of advice we’ll keep in mind:  Trust your instincts; you will be fine at this parenting business.The biggest part of this job is showing up and loving this baby. If you are present, you can learn the rest along the way.

10. Odd: that you can appreciate a whopping kick in the ribs and feel such a great deep love for someone who uses your liver as a punching bag.

11. Dreaming of a great workout: sweating out every fret, worry, over-thought, back kink and restless tweak and leaving the gym on a cloud.

12. While I’m looking forward to getting my mobility back, is it strange to want to keep him in there where I know he’s safe from sharp edges, chubby cheek pinchers and random stuff he’ll find on the ground and put straight into his mouth?

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Saturday Walks

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Christmas lights 2011 - CPH
Christmas lights 2011 - CPH
Bring on the cozy. Christmas decorations are up all over Copenhagen. Time to find our tree and decorate at home soon. This will be our first year together in Denmark for Christmas – the last 3 have been in Vancouver with my family. In the meantime it’s just us two and the big gift to come. Feeling a little like we did as kids with the joy and anticipation of waiting for Santa Claus.

Thinking of my Morfar on his birthday today. Missing him and his year-round holiday decorations.

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